Steps to Moving Out and On with Your Life

Make The Decision

You have been thinking about moving for how long?? It is time to empty out that hope chest and start making things happen. Obviously this is a process that can take awhile, but keep in mind there are steps to making that process easier...

We all have trouble making decisions sometimes, I sure have been through it, but enough already. While hovering over staying or going, I learned the secret is doing 3 don'ts: don't do something to prove myself to others, don't hold on to someone I lost, don't make decisions out of the need to feel significant (this one I picked up at a Tony Robbin's Unleash the Power Within seminar). Many of us are very unaware that we have one or more of those components holding us back, so becoming aware of them is the first step. Please share how you overcame yours!

Do something, if not everything, because it makes YOU feel good. Once you decide to make the move, stick with it. Look at this as a time in your life to simplify and get in touch with your nucleus. What is in your heart? Who are you and who do you want to grow into? Watch how easy it is to make decisions once you dig through the excess elements.


Pack

Once you have answered all of the the difficult questions...there are a few more:) OK, OK...stop with the stress. This is a GOOD thing.

So, you are looking at your closet and thinking you don't know what graduates to the next level of life. Set a goal to take 4 or 5 boxes of clothes total. Remember how much time you wasted staring at your clothes deciding what to wear? I am sure it has a little to do with CLUTTER, but mostly because half that stuff isn't really you at all. Oh yeah, maybe you'll wear this shirt to a Halloween party or maybe that pair of shoes will come back in style.NONONONO!

I think Oprah once said if you haven't worn it in 6 months (and you don't have as much closet space as she does) get rid of it. Turn this into a positive opportunity to really define you. Have a close friend by your side, or journal about your experience.


Let Go

Yes, I see the tears. It is tough, but you need to keep on living and making decisions that are best for you.

The most difficult things to subtract are the objects that you have some sort of emotional attachment to. (This part is really important so really be open minded here.) If you lost someone close to you, and you still have some of his or her clothes, it is time to let them go on. This is key on many levels: spiritual, physical, emotional. Stop confusing yourself! It absolutely does not mean you are abandoning them. Remember them as they are, don't try to be them to keep their spirit alive, share the messages they taught you with others.

You're perfect the way you truly are. Keep the items that you want to define yourself with. How do you envision yourself down the road? What items correspond with your goals? Just remember, even if you give away something, and you find out later you could have used it, that is OK.


Go

This is it.

You have a couple boxes of clothes. Maybe some furniture. Some photos. Music. And most importantly, your memories. It is time to take the next step to discover what you can do! Every little thing that guided you to this moment is important. Think of it this way, just because you aren't able to hold it, doesn't mean it isn't there or that you can't feel it. Be intrinsically complete because you never know what is just around the corner. Keep a couple special things...

For additional support, I recommend Beliefnet: Inspiration, Spirituality, Faith at http://www.beliefnet.com/.